What I offer

Coaching- both online and in-person

I have been working as a holistic coach for the past 15 years. Due to my own professional turn around after a burnout (from working as international human rights defender to working in the healing arts) there is nothing I feel more passionate about than helping you live a more authentic life, by pursuing your longing, your dream.

I offer a holistic coaching approach, based on systemic coaching techniques, as well as intuitive counselling founded on a background of Traditional Chinese medicine to help you understand what is going on at the level of your body, mind and spirit.

The aim is to help you find ways to create change in a safe and meaningful way. For me coaching is about reconciling two lives, the one you are living with the one you are longing to live. It is about providing a clear and safe bridge from one to the other. This is particularly important if you are faced by overwhelming emotions such as anxiety, tension and stress. Together we can find ways in which you can overcome fear and inner conflict.

I have personal experience with burnout, which means that I know how it feels and also how to overcome it. Coaching is an accompaniment to help you make changes.

These changes can take different forms.

You might seek clarity, want to gain deeper insight into the abilities you have or need to develop in order to take the next step in your life.

You might find yourself in a life situation that no longer makes sense and you seek a way out.

Perhaps you want to transform an aspect of your private or professional life and work on unattained dreams and goals. Conversely, you might be struggling with the changes you are undergoing and want to find a way to soften the blow.

Our work together consists in helping you make safe changes.

You might seek clarity, or want to gain deeper insight into the abilities you have or need to develop in order to take the next step in your life.

You might find yourself in a life situation that no longer makes sense and you seek a way out.

Perhaps you want to transform an aspect of your private or professional life and work on unattained goals. Conversely, you might be struggling with the changes you are undergoing and want to find a way to soften the blow.

Coaching can be particularly useful to tackle:

Fears – such as pervasive anxiety.
Relationships – to talk through difficulties & how to handle them
Confidence – to present yourself more positively?
Patterns – wish to change negative patterns into a positive lifestyle?

I offer a confidential, safe, non-judgemental and supportive environment to talk about the challenges you might face and the aims you would like to achieve.

If you want your coaching session can be combined with EFT or shiatsu.

If you would like to meet in person, you are welcomed in my two practices in Brussels (Centre Ovive in 1000 Brussels and Cabinet Félix Marchal in Schaerbeek).

If you prefer an online session please click here.

The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)- both online and in person

The Emotional Freedom Technique is a first aid kit for present days. Time seems to be speeding up and most of us are continuously multitasking to get everything done. In this context, it can be difficult to find a way to reduce the intensity of it all and to regain some degree of tranquillity that is needed to actually reconnect with yourself.

EFT is a simple and effective technique that can decidedly help you to centre and ground, thereby delivering relaxation and improved health with remarkable speed.

The theory behind EFT is that negative emotions are caused by disturbances in the body’s energy system. By tapping certain acupuncture points on the meridian system with your fingertips, it removes these disruptions caused by stress, trauma or other negative influences.

EFT is a simple and fun technique that can be applied in all walks of life – after a quarrel with a colleague or partner, stress before an exam, a headache after a long day of work or for deeper and more long-lasting problems, such as fears and illnesses.

Our past cannot be changed, but we can work on our emotional responses to it. EFT removes those triggers that make us repeat certain patterns in our lives and keep us from moving forward in the present. These triggers can manifest in many different ways such as fears and phobias, addictions and illnesses. EFT helps to clear these blockages and thereby allows us to feel better, both emotionally and physically. Because of its simplicity, it can be applied to just about anything, from fear of public speaking, sleeping problems, agoraphobia, addiction to sweets, to all sorts of physical symptoms and discomfort, such as a headache or chronic fatigue.

This works, because the theory and practice is the same in all situations- EFT stops you from identifying with a problem, or issue so that you can move on.

The focus of this approach is to help you quickly attain tranquillity, by removing tensions in your body and negative thought patterns that keep you from pursuing the life you want. It will be a short introductory course. It will give you the basic theory and practice so that you can work with it and your friends and family members. EFT is also ideally suited for children, to help them get over fears and worries, such as worry about bad grades or presentations.

It is a healing method based on the Chinese discipline of acupuncture and modern psychology that helps us to release the stress and energetic blockages that keep us stuck. EFT practitioners use a gentle tapping technique to stimulate acupuncture points on the face and body while focusing on and verbalizing the emotional problem to be resolved.

It is a technique that can help to improve a lot of psychological and physical ailments. The theory behind EFT is that negative emotions are caused by disturbances in the body’s energy field. By tapping on the meridians while thinking of a negative emotion, the body’s energy field is altered and restored back to balance.

In my experience, EFT has been very beneficial for anxiety and stress.

Please note:
EFT is neither a medical nor a psychotherapeutic treatment.  I cannot make diagnoses, only a doctor or psychologist can. For all conditions please make sure consult a physician.

Shiatsu

Shiatsu means “finger pressure” in Japanese. It is one of the oldest forms of healing. With touch it activates your body’s self-healing mechanisms, regenerating the source Qi, or vital life force.

Shiatsu is a therapeutic practise based on traditional Chinese medicine and Eastern philosophy. It is also called acupuncture without needles. By working the pressure points and meridians, it activates the body’s emotional, physical and spiritual energy pathways and tries to bring them back into balance.

Shiatsu can be deeply relaxing and nourishing. It gives you the space to really let go, connecting the different parts that you may find difficult listening or attending to, offering deep healing.

It is ideal to address deep tension within the body. With simple stretches and rotations, a lot of stress held in the body can be released.

Shiatsu takes place fully dressed on a comfortable futon mat and lasts approximately 40 minutes to one hour. At the end of the session, I can give you dietary advice (Macrobiotics) and show you simple exercises (stretches, breathing exercises) that you can integrate into your day-to day life.

I have used shiatsu in particular for:

Fatigue
Stress
Anxiety
Back pain
Tension
Relaxation
I am a fully qualified shiatsu practitioner (three years training) and registered with the Belgian shiatsu federation.

A short history of Shiatsu

Shiatsu was developed in Japan during the first half of the 20th Century. Newer forms of Western medical knowledge, such as anatomy and physiology, were integrated into older forms of healing, such as traditional Anma massage and diagnosis according to Oriental medicine.

Chinese medicine was introduced to Japan by a Buddhist Monk in the 6th Century. It constitutes a combination of manipulative massage, breathing techniques and healing meditations, known collectively as “Tao Yin”, which formed the basis of what later became shiatsu in Japan.

Systemic constellations

“The part can never be well unless the whole is well.” Plato

Systemic constellations provide an opportunity to explore the dynamics behind personal difficulties in a fresh way. A constellation creates a kind of living map of a personal, family or other relational issue and provides a new perspective on complex, enduring or apparently intractable challenges.

The map (made up of ‘representatives’ – people in the workshop or papers with names in individual coachings) which a constellation creates, allows the coach and client to access the wider system, see the hidden forces at play and identify new paths to a lasting resolution.

Our happiness, we are told, depends above all on our hard work, our intentions and thoughts. In short, everyone is “the maker of his own fate” and the responsibility for it rests on our own shoulders.

But what if it weren’t entirely this way? What if, despite trying with clear intent and hard work, some old unsatisfactory patterns keep on occurring over and over again with no solution in sight? Both in the professional or private life.

Again you come across a choleric boss, or again you were left by your partner. Again the family reunion ends in a quarrel.

A systemic constellation can be helpful here. Through a constellation, it is possible to uncover underlying motives for your thoughts and actions and help you gain insights into how you can change patterns of interactions. Furthermore, and decisively, a constellation offers an understanding of the inner posture that can lead to a lasting solution.

Systemic constellation work is based on the assumption that all members of a family are interconnected over generations, regardless of whether these ties are reflected on the outside or not.
In this way, positive but also negative patterns of life and behaviours in families are often passed on unconsciously over generations and can be perpetuated. In particular, severe fates and tragic events (e. g. accidents, suicide, war) often have an effect over generations. It is, however, rarely apparent at first glance that a current, burdensome condition is linked to this.

Present-day issues that you’d like to work on can be:
-family issues
-relationships (or the lack thereof)
-difficulties in the workplace
-aspects of illnesses

The procedure of a constellation

First of all, the request of the client is clarified. The facilitator will ask the client, what the issue is that they would like to understand and, if possible, shift. For this, the client is invited to specifically name difficult events in his/her family system. Given what she hears, the facilitator will then direct the client to select members of the group to represent people or other elements important to the question the client asks about. The client then constellates his issue with the help of representatives, by positioning them in the room. Here often the representatives have distinct sensations and symptoms. Through eliciting information from representatives, the facilitator aims to uncover the deeper dynamics that hold the entanglements in place. With the help of the representatives, things can be unveiled and put into place, following a systemic order that conveys respect for everyone involved.

During a collective workshop, I work in a group of about 5-10 people.
No previous knowledge is required for these seminars.

 

How does it work- what is systemic perception?

Systemic perception is an ability that all humans are born with, but that has been by and large ignored and minimized by many western, euro-centric cultures.  It is our ability to recognize energy, connection, and information outside of the five traditional senses. It comes in different forms for different people. Extrasensory perception (ESP) is one form of systemic perception, however in the western culture that has been relegated to the purview of a few at the margins.  In this work, participants are encouraged to trust and listen to their bodies and intuitions as this information appears.

Where does the information come from?

In 1995, Albrecht Mahr, M.D., coined the term, ‘the knowing field’ to describe the flow of energy and information that appears in the space occupied by representatives in a constellation, once a question has been asked. When we tune in using our systemic perception, we can sense information coming from this field.  We say that we experience it phenomenologically, which means that we pay attention to the phenomena – the sensations, emotions, physical feelings and bits of information that emerge once we are representing an element in a constellation – without judging or analyzing it. Instead, we offer the information we receive in order to move the constellation forward. Other terms to describe the field from other disciplines are the unconscious, or the collective unconscious.

Disclaimer: Please note that this approach does not provide medical or psychotherapeutic treatment. I can’t make a diagnosis, only a doctor or a psychologist can. For all complaints, please also consult a doctor.